I did some videos on gazing. Includes a little on water monkeys and karmamudra. I have quite a bit on gazing on this website. Embedded in the (47) Body Mind folder are 2 pages. In the (73) video mind/body folder is a video which has some on gazing at the end; 1 video AT; meditation, hands, breathing, gazing. Gazing instruction starts 5 minutes into part 7.
link to google drive folder on this.
link to google drive folder on karmamudra
This book has been republished and the name was changed some. The four Spiritual Practices of Rumi is another book. The bible of gazing.
Below is some karmamudra book titles, notes on the cul-de-sac, Water monkeys essay, chapter on gazing "eyes wide open" by the Olds'.
“Sexual Secrets: The Alchemy of Ecstacy” Douglas/Slinger.
This lady is very good. Barbara Keesling “Super Sexual Orgasm” esp. for women
Within every woman's body lies the potential for a vaginal orgasm so explosive and so consuming that, once experienced, it immediately and permanently redefines a woman's understanding of her own sexuality. This super sexual orgasm-an instantaneous vaginal orgasm triggered by penetration-is the ultimate sexual pleasure. This book is your guide to that pleasure. It is a road map to changing your life. And it is a gift I am very anxious to share with you.
As a sex therapist, nothing has been more important to me than understanding the phenomenon we call orgasm. And nothing is more exciting to me, both professionally and personally, than super sexual orgasm. Today, after almost twenty years of professional work in the field of human sexuality I feel confident in my ability to finally make this little known secret every woman's secret. Today, every woman can experience super sexual orgasm, and in the pages that follow I am going to teach you everything you need to know to open the door to your first super sexual orgasm, or SSO. The exercises and the techniques, the positions to make it easier-even instructions and support for your partner-they're all here.
On the lighter side, I have been called the "Martha Stewart of Sex" and "the first sex therapist who looks like she's had sex." On a more serious note, I am a sex therapist in California, with a private practice at the Riskin-Banker Psychotherapy Center in Santa Ana. I received my Ph.D. in Health Psychology and have been teaching courses at California colleges on human sexuality and psychopathology for many years.
Prior to becoming a therapist I was a professional sex surrogate. When an individual comes to a sex therapist for problems such as lack of desire or orgasm, many sex therapists work with professional surrogate partners who act as the client's partner during therapy. Some of my greatest insights into human sexuality have been derived from my twelve years of working as a surrogate partner, including many of my insights into super sexual orgasm.
I believe sex is one of the purest forms of human endeavor. Sex is kaleidoscopic in its expressive and experiential possibility. It can be joyously exuberant. It can be a thrilling adventure into the unknown. It can be soothing and centering. Sex cuts to the core of who you are as an individual. It is the ultimate arena of sharing between people. It is the nourishing confluence of so many special elements: touch, physicality, communication, play, genital activity, arousal, orgasm, and intimacy. I also believe sex has an unparalleled power to heal us and our partners on an emotional, physical, and spiritual level.
Of all the things I have learned in my journeys as a woman, a sex therapist, a healer, a teacher, and a partner, super sexual orgasm stands alone. To me, super sexual orgasm is the sexual holy grail, the centerpiece for body, mind, and spirit integration for every woman. The relevance for women is universal.
One of the most beautiful and unique aspects of the SSO experience is that it provides what most women yearn for in their intimate lives: control. This one word is pivotal to female sexuality
Women want to have control when they make love. When I say women want to have control, I'm not talking about women wanting to be dominatrices or women wanting to be on top-which is what you might think I am talking about. I'm saying this: Women want to have control of their sexual energies. They want to fully enjoy every scintilla of their lovemaking, from sensual caressing to supersonic climaxes. They want to take advantage of every possibility for pleasure. Doesn't this ring true for you?
Super sexual orgasm will put you in control. The preparation will awaken you to your sexual energies, rhythms, and strength. And once you discover the magic of SSO, you will be able to decide if you want to have your explosive climax at the beginning of intercourse or wait till your partner is on the verge of orgasm or have multiple explosive orgasms or have it all! All of this will be available to you. You will have the control. Isn't this what you want?
There is a line of thought that maintains that to be fully womanly means surrendering to male sexual prowess and power during lovemaking. I'm not sure where that attitude started but I find many of my female therapeutic clients and many of the women who attend my lectures or speak at my talk show appearances sincerely adhere to that view ... until they understand and access their own personal SSO experience.
When you are in control with the extraordinary power of super sexual orgasm-able to mobilize your sexual and sensual essence and exercise it when you want it and how you want it-you do in fact surrender. But you know in every fiber of your body that you are surrendering not to the supremacy of your partner, but to your own volatile, deliciously consuming sexuality.
Now, this is not to say that making super sexual orgasm your own means you are facing the world like a Mack truck! What SSO will do for you is much more subtle. It allows you to find and become the essential in you. It gives you confidence, it gives you strength, and it gives you the keys to your own pleasure.
For many women, having orgasms has become a point of pressure, disappointment, and even unhappiness. This needs to change. My intention is to free women to enjoy their orgasms and simultaneously take the pressure off having orgasms. But to get there, we need to start from a very different place. We need to start by accessing and understanding your full sexual potential as a woman and your full orgasmic capacity. When you are in command of your own body, understand its vast sexual potential and can access this potential at your choosing, then performance anxieties dissolve, and you can revel in what your body has to offer. Learn all there is to learn, feel all there is to feel; then you are truly free.
Super sexual orgasm is a comprehensive experience. It doesn't just feel fabulous, it changes lives. It gives control. It lets you surrender. And it overwhelms with pleasure. But if you are going to welcome SSO in your life, you will need to prepare on many levels:
* SSO requires a level of muscular strength and coordination that you have probably never needed before to experience erotic pleasure. This means taking a little time to build up areas in the body you have probably given little notice to before.
* SSO requires that you are more comfortable with your body than you have probably ever been before- all of your body, including the most intimate areas.
· SSO requires that you are more comfortable with your partner than you may have ever been before.
You are going to need your partner's help and support, and you are going to need to feel a clear bond of trust.
To make all of this possible for you, and to keep the process a simple one, I have divided this book into two sections. In Part I we will focus on the exercises and techniques that will bring your body to a state of readiness, and you will experience your first super sexual orgasm. Part II will focus on integrating SSO into your emotional life, with special emphasis on strengthening the bonds of your partnership. As with so many other aspects of female sexuality and erotic pleasure, there is much more involved in SSO than a mechanical "now do this, then do that" approach. We need to address the issues of comfort and trust, and we need to address the space of permission you must be in to fully experience SSO. By the time you have completed both sections, body, mind, and spirit will have all been well attended to, and super sexual orgasm will be yours to enjoy for the rest of your life.
From my contact with thousands of women worldwide I know that women are ready to embrace their true and full sexual potential. I know they are ready for the most profound sensual experience of their lives. I know you are, and I promise that super sexual orgasm will bring much joy and love into your life. You do not have to long for it. You can claim it right now. And all you have to do is turn the page.
There are some good Chinese books. Nothing wrong with the Kama Sutra for tone.
“ESO: Extended Sexual Orgasm” but masturbation for men is out
“The Tao of Love and Sex” Jolan Chang
Really, most books on the subject are pretty right on.
GAZING PRACTICE — Good for lovers
“The Spiritual Practices of Rumi: Radical Techniques for Beholding the Divine”
By Will Johnson
I don’t agree with everything he does but most of it.
See Water Monkeys
Water monkeys or Cocytopus, the Eight legged creature.
This is about gazing, gazing, gazing.
Ideally you stand in a chest deep pool of water which is pretty warm but any pool might do or the lake or ocean.
The woman wraps her legs around the man. They are gazing.
He moves however he is moved. Maybe in a circle, maybe slowly twirling.
Naked is good. No penetration but contact.
You can arrange swimwear to accommodate such.
Divine union. You become one being.
You have a lot of fun.
A man can get a bathing suit with a zipper.
A woman can cut a hole in her bathing suit.
A wrap or shorts can help her modesty out of the water.
As to movement, anything could happen but try twirling around while describing a big circle.
This is a chapter exerpted from “Primordial Grace: Earth, Original Heart, and the visionary Path of Radiance” by Robert and Rachel Olds
Experienced Dzogchen practitioners
Typically this is referred to as gazing.
Wide-angle vision is a powerful support for opening your heart as you sit or as you walk. Just as openness is the natural mode of your heart, wide-angle vision is the natural mode of your eyes. Original peoples used their eyes in wide-angle vision most of the time, using more tightly focused tunnel vision only for specific tasks. The modern world with its emphasis on the written word demands focused tunnel vision for most activities, and it has become a habit even when not necessary. This use of the eyes in turn reinforces tunnel mind, restricting and closing off access to other modes of perception. Learning to use the eyes in wide-angle vision, aware without focusing on the peripheral field, allows the mind to open to the natural spaciousness of the heart and eyes.
The mind or intellect is closely connected to the eyes; how you choose to use your eyes affects your mind. Wide-angle vision allows everything in a 180-degree range to come in all at once. This saturation of the visual field floods the brain with information and shifts attention to the receptive quality of the eyes, to receptiveness itself rather than content, softening the intensity of the mind and lessening its ability- to control the heart. Wide-angle vision helps cut through the tendency of mind or intellect to take over, and you can settle more easily into your heart. And because it is the natural way to use our eyes, this is a very effective way for spiritual practitioners to reclaim direct experience of the natural indwelling openness of our hearts and reconnect with the fabric of being.
Most people have allowed their minds to be dominant and use their eyes in a channeled, tunnel vision way, not only through habitually focusing on the written word, but also by grabbing blindly out of the negative emotions and limitations of separate identity upheld by the mind. This experience of the mind can be very compelling, making it difficult to access the natural inclusiveness and openness of your heart. Wide-angle vision can help release the hold that the mind has on the eyes and on the heart The eyes go naturally into wide-angle vision when you go to your heart, and the process is reciprocal; intentionally going into wide-angle vision facilitates blending with your heart and the heart of all”
Artists Robert and Rachel Olds spent nine years in spiritual retreat together integrating Earth living and the practices of primordial grace. They came to their retreat after years of spiritual inquiry through their artwork and years of letting go and simplifying their lives to connect more fully with the natural world. Through their books, slide presentations, and their website acircleisdrawn.org they share their perspective from the completion of the visionary path of radiance to encourage recognition that this Earth, this vision we call life, is a sacred offering